3 Ways to Meet Your Romantic Soul Mate

Many women, and for that matter, many men, are searching for their soul mate.  When they approach me to be their Romance Coach to help them get married, they want to meet Their Soul Mate. 

The first thing I recommend my clients consider in this QUEST for ROMANTIC LOVE is to understand there is more than one person out there who would mesh well with you romantically. 

Mind blowing concept, isn’t it?

Many, many people believe in the idea of “The One.”  They have an image of an Ideal, a PERFECT person, instead of a Real Person who is the Best Mate for THEM.  When they do this, immediately they massively limit themselves from 1. getting more dates, 2. building their relationship communication skill set, and 3. recognizing genuine LOVE when it crosses their path.

Next, you must TAKE ACTION. 

Yes, we are to be feminine ladies, and men ask US out.  However, ladies, we MUST TAKE ACTION.  Otherwise, it’s a fantasy.

1.  LOOK YOUR BEST! (OK, I’ll have more on this in upcoming articles and image consulting services as part of my individual romance coaching packages.)

2.  GET OUT THERE!  I will have this as a regular feature in my weekly newsletter, so you do want to sign up to receive that.  To give you some ideas for now for more places to MEET MEN.

• Attend Business and Technology Networking events.  Trust me.  You would not BELIEVE how many more men there always are at BUSINESS events.  I attend these at least weekly if not more than 1 a week.  Mix it up.

• Go out to dinner with your girlfriends.  I love to gaggle with large groups of my girlfriends and to mix things up.  But really, when your goal (the goal of ALL your GFs with whom you go out, yes?) is to meet men while you are socializing with Da Girlz, then go in SMALL packs of women.  It’s too overwhelming for men to gaze upon a group of 17 women and pick one out.  Now a group of 3… that’s so much easier for them!

• Be sure to get on the mailing list of Spinsters of San Francisco if you live in the San Francisco Bay Area.  They do so much good while creating a FUN social atmosphere.  Enjoy!

3.  FLIRT, Baby, FLIRT!

• By all means, DO FLIRT! 

       (Indeed, I’ll have more on How to Flirt coming here at my website in the future, so do check back often for updates.)

• Now ladies, we can flirt in attire and in demeanor.  Are you leveraging both?

Gentlemen, you too!
Happy Dating and Relationships,
April Braswell

April Braswell is an expert columnist at DatingAdvice.com and speaks to singles in Singles Groups and Divorce Living Groups as well as at Singles Dating Workshops and Singles Conferences in Orange County CA Life Coach April Braswell, LA and San Francisco. Orange County CA #1 Best Hypnotherapist in Newport Beach, Costa Mesa, Irvine based.

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Relationship Coaching – Long Term Marriage Relationship Success: Different in Brain Than Dating Chemistry

Intriguingly enough, in long-term marriages, where there is long term Being In-Love, there is another part of the brain which is involved and must be involved for LONG TERM SUCCESS.

I do not have the brain section TERMINOLOGY in front of me. I’ll be sure to provide that to the group in the future.

The Long Term Success Section for couples In Love for the long haul, this other part of the brain is different than the marvelous toe curling part of the brain happily receiving dopamine from the happy aroused pheromones. As well as a different part of the brain which require NEWNESS least we become – The Worst – bored.

The Long Term Relationship Success part of the brain reads and requires…..

PEACEFUL CALMNESS

Indeed, it is that feeling which is the result of when we fight and struggle to communicate and when we WORK at our marriage and unite as singles into a committed relationship, that true intimacy is achieved. We FEEL cherished, respected, received and loved. We feel safe and secure. This person knows my faults, helps me to continue to grow, AND still loves me. In fact, having been THROUGH fights which became merely miscommunication resolved, our love DEEPENED. We truly KNEW each other and LOVED each other.

Then love becomes a CHOICE not just a sentiment and whimsical feeling of the moment as it is in the ATTRACTION STAGE. Then we choose to love each other, not just when we FELT like it. And then LOVE becomes an action. We LOVE each other. We ACT in LOVING ways and behaviors. Yes, of course, we are still imperfect. Just there is that CALM, that PEACEFULNESS. And it is there in Long Term Successful Marriage relationships.

That is where we can wear absolutely no makeup and he thinks we are utterly beautiful. And we see a man who has courage and diligence. Unlike all the “Real Housewives Of XYZ location” where they must ALWAYS each and every day look unbelievably perfect which is such a huge stress. When the PEACEFUL CALM part kicks in, we can allow that full range of ourselves to show.

INTIMACY

It is only ONE element. The Long Term Successful Marriage relationships ALSO require we continue to feed CHEMISTRY. Which we do with good grooming and behavior and dress which acquentuate the differences between the sexes. The Long Term Successful Marriage relationship also needs injections periodically over a period of extended time of NEWNESS to keep thing vital like new oxygen to the blood stream.

When singles are dating, indeed, all three elements need to be considered:

Attraction – chemistry and passion

Newness – continual learning and stimulation for vitality

Peaceful Calm – true intimacy

When all three elements are present in a courtship, this just might become a wonderful marriage relationship.

Happy Dating and Relationships!

April Braswell

Dating and Relationship Coach

Romance Coach and Preparing for Love for Singles and Personals

In my work as an Online Dating Coach and inculcating for romance and romantic sex relationships, some of the work which I most recommend for my clients is to first start with their communication and personal magnetism skill set.

Irresistible Attraction: Secrets of Personal Magnetism

Irresistible Attraction is about becoming our most attractive in our behavior and interactions with others. The internationally knowned author of the best-seller, The Psychology of Persuasion, Influence and Persuasion master Kevin Hogan coauthored this very approachable book with Mary Lee Labay.

I'm kind of laughing here. Personally, whenever I think of this book, I think of it as like, Personal Magnetism and Attractiveness for the Rest of Us. Not quite the guide for idiots or dummies, but still!

Ok, so you are not actually a sought after celebrity movie star, super model or NFL star quarterback? So, you are not a 10 even a 9. Maybe you are a 7, a 6, or even a 4. In Irresistible Attraction, the authors teach you and provide quite a number of examples of behaviors and communications to have with others to increase your attractiveness quotient and to be more successful in dating.

And indeed, the more successful we are in dating, the greater our chances of finding love and creating a really great romantic relationship. I highly recommend this book to my clients to read and practice before heading out on Date0. It will really help you in your conversations to increase your attractiveness to others. And in romance, we all want to be more magnetically attractive, don't we? In which case, yup, go buy this book now.

All the best,

April Braswell

Online Dating Expert, Romantic Relationship Coach, Romance Coaching

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Be Efficient with Speed Dating - Dating Tips from Dating Coach April Braswell

As a Dating and Relationship Coach men and women ask me about giving them dating tips and advise all the time. They want to know, what are some ways I can meet more singles online? what can I do to get better dates?

One unique dating feature from the 21st century I recommend is to Be Efficient - Try Speed Dating!

While you are at it, be sure to check out all the Free Dating Articles I provide at my website. I hope reading them helps you to get more and better dates. And when you desire a Dating Coach to assist you with that, ping me and let's work together to move you towards the romantic sex life partner relationship of your dreams.

All the best,

April Braswell

Get Outta Here!

In fact, with the Memorial Day Weekend, what are your plans for the weekend?

will you be in town?
Or are you road tripping it somewhere?

DO TELL!

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Everybody's Working for the Weekend!

So, what are you doing this weekend?

It's Memorial Day Weekend!

Remember to get out and play and mix it up so you are meeting new people all the time to increase your likelihood of marrying!

All the best,

April Braswell
Romance Coach, Online Dating Coach